All Dialed In … And Holding.

random-6As you age, change is inevitable and in my case, hard to adjust to. I guess, unlike the typical Okie, who lives in a fast-paced, experience-driven, multiple-option world, where choice and personal values pale beside the possibility of exposure to the latest, the biggest, the fastest, the most prestigious, and don’t forget ……. “the best” ……. or the most expensive.

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Someone Is Watching

“This is kind of like biting into the apple and finding half of a worm, ever since Adam & Eve there has been trouble in the garden, and today it is no different.”

Remember when you were small, and very unsatisfied with the things of life, you announced to your mother:  “I am going to run away from here and live somewhere else.”  Then you carefully packed up all your belongings, grabbed a quick peanut butter sandwich and the family dog and took off.  Usually as far as down to the corner, to sit on the curb, eat your sandwich and talk to the dog for awhile before coming back home.

Then after being gone a total of say forty-five minutes or so, you would return home, look at your mother and say something profound such as:  “I see you still have the same cat.”

Welcome home son.

I suppose we all dream of living somewhere else, especially when things get a little tough where it is that we currently find ourselves residing at the time.  Did you know that Facebook, the daily hangout for about 800 million people world wide is the new digital world for a lot of folks.

If Facebook were a country, it would be the world’s third largest, after India and China.

Think about this, it is governed by a set of rules based on an ideology espoused by its management team and founding father Mark Zuckerberg. Facebook World, advocates what has come to be known as “radical transparency” the idea that humanity would be better off if everybody were more transparent about who they are and what they do.  So they collect information on YOU and then they sell it to someone else.

I don’t know about you, but I kind of find that almost scary.  A cyber community of people who are totally transparent … TMI (Too Much Information) … I can only think of one apparent good thing about it, no longer does the husband have to answer that stoooopid question:  “Does this thing make me look fat?” … It should be fairly apparent in this world.

Facebook is not alone in this.

Goggle will “cross-pollinate” information it has gathered on you from searches, emails on Gmail, YouTube videos, posts on Google+, and even applications on Android smart-phones to create a “complete picture of who you are, what you read, where you’re going, and what you’re up to.”

All the time, the company is telling you it is in order to serve you better.

My grandmother used to say:  Always be very skeptical of small numbers and quick explanations.  You see, Facebook and Google both know it’s impossible not to take advantage of people. The trick is to take advantage of them in their own best interest.  Are you worried, are you scared yet?  You should be.

Let me see if I can simplify this a little more.  This is kind of like biting into the apple and finding half of a worm, ever since Adam & Eve there has been trouble in the garden, and today it is no different.

They are collecting information on you to sell to someone else, that is how they make their living.  And you are using their services for free so therefore they feel they have the right to do this.  It’s called “The No Free Lunch” clause, it was inside the little box you checked when you agreed to the terms of service when you first signed up.

Dear Boxcar, I think my wife might have died.  The love-making and sex is the same, but the ironing is piling up. 

Frustrated in Oklahoma.

(Don’t pay any attention to that last quote, I am just trying my best to screw them up.)

One last thing:  If you should happen to open your Email this week and spy a message from Crazy Horse, go ahead and open it, it is just me.  I am going to try and get them off my trail for a bit.


Opt Me Out

Every now and then, I am invited “to join Facebook” happened again this week, and as always, I declined.  Yesterday as I opened up my email box it was right there on top, I received but another “invite” to friend up or join Facebook.

Now some would jump at the opportunity, but I will do what I always do with them, I will tactfully decline and here is why.   I just don’t do Facebook, or Twitter, David Letterman or Jay Leno.  I am more or less a disinclined recluse and do not operate well in social settings (Internet or otherwise).  Call me old school, but I tend to keep it confined to the pages here and I don’t take my information and spread it around the internet willingly.

Last year Facebook was rumored to be going down the tubes and everyone rushed to download everything that they had put up (of a personal nature) before the crash and demise.  Like Lemmings running to the very edge of the precipice they all lined up to take advantage of what time they thought they had left.  

But the hoax did not materialize.  Facebook survived.  

Last week my sister sent me an email warning of impending doom, this time again, on Facebook with some kind of super virus that was going to wipeout mankind and take their hard-drives with them.  It turns out the warning is part of the hoax.  

Again … It did not happen.

Facebook is not on or even near the top of my list for life, because it takes privacy into the open arena of society and not only promotes people to give it up, but asks for and seeks information of all sorts on the individual players.  Which in turn gets sold off or distributed to outside interests.  

They tell people that the new sharing functions that they have installed will help them to “tell the story of their lives.”  This is accomplished by allowing users to tell their friends in real time what they’re reading watching, hearing, eating and consuming.  Log on, and you’ll get a flood of updates on what all your Facebook buddies are doing … at that instant in time.

Now do you really want to know that I am sitting here in my underwear typing this? 


As a friend of mine is fond of saying …. TMI (too much information)

Information which Facebook would take and fine tune to their advantage and then much like Goggle point or direct even more advertisements my way.  Meanwhile we all sit around and gripe about the changes they make and in the end, we adapt and accept them, we move on.

Two things life has taught me.  

Number One:  If you don’t like something, and they ask you what it is that you do not like, and you tell them.  Then expect MORE of that in the future.  You see, “If you tell a man where it is that you tie up your goat at night, sooner or later, he will come by and steal it.”

Number two:  Facebook is in this to make money and you are in reality not the customer … You are sadly … the product.  The more you tell them, the more they have to sell, and believe it or not.  It will get sold. 

Facebook’s 800 million free users are not the real customers here, it is the companies that line up and actually pay for your data and everything down the pike that you put up.  That is why I don’t do Facebook and will always opt out.  What privacy I have left (and these days it isn’t much) I am going to guard and protect.

So, thank you so much for the invite, but I am going to pass.  If you want another take on all this, head over to Middleagedangrywoman and check out what she has to say about it.